“what do i do he is sending mixed signals”
Ouch. Mixed signals are the worst. I feel that the best thing to seek in this scenario is clarity, so you don’t have to play this game of “is he into me? Is he not?”, which is practically a form of self-torture. Inconsistency in his actions could be a sign of a lack of interest, whether he’s not in a place to be talking/being in a relationship, or he simply doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. And you deserve someone who’s actually interested in you! Not just someone whose affection towards you varies like the weather (which is not the best analogy for the monotonous Seattle rain). If you really want to know what he thinks, you can have a conversation with him about the situation, but if his words don’t match up with his actions (or lack thereof), it might be a sign that it’s not right for you right now. Assess for yourself if you’re ok with mixed signals or would be better off focusing on you!
“what do I do if there’s someone I would like to avoid”
If there’s someone you’d like to avoid, that probably means that you don’t want to be around them, which can sometimes be hard to execute. I’d say that if the other person knows you have reasons to avoid them (e.g. something happened between you both), you can try creating some distance and allowing the contact to fade out naturally. This can come in the form of not being around them as often or limiting communication, for example. However, if the other person is unaware of a reason you’d want to avoid them or you have been good friends, I’d recommend having a conversation with them. If you start giving them the silent treatment, they can see it as you ghosting them for no reason, so an honest conversation would be nice to have them know why you need space and also be able to set clear boundaries with them.
“How can I get over seasonal depression!?”
December is the time when the long, dark, and rainy days are in full swing and the cold outside has everyone retreating to hibernate for the season, especially here in the PNW. First, let’s clarify something: seasonal depression is a real form of depression that can come and go with the seasons (most commonly winter months) while the winter blues are feelings that can include sadness and lack of motivation due to the weather that can make your mood feel a bit down. For the winter blues, some ways to brighten up the season are to romanticise the weather by wearing cute outfits, enjoying warm drinks and holiday treats, or watch the rain from a window; plan fun winter activities (which you can find recommendations for in articles written this month by Calliope N. ’27 and Naomi F. ’29); or honestly, just taking the bad weather with your chin and using this season to lock in. If you’re feeling depressed, though, please speak with a trusted adult, the counselling team, or utilise resources from mental health professionals.
“how do i convince myself to start my homework?”
Do it for your future self. Doing it now sounds a lot better than doing it at 12 am or anxiously trying to hide the fact that you didn’t do your homework during class. The hardest part is getting started! (I think…)
“How to get a boyf?”
Using my wisdom as a single person, meet guys, chat with them, develop real friendships, and if you’re interested in someone, bring your rizz game and see if you guys are both interested! Don’t force anything, though. And refer to the first question on this advice column if you’re getting mixed signals. Good luck and I wish the best for you! You deserve to be loved.
